Posted by: Anne | July 12, 2014

be free from… unsuccessful attitudes

Things Successful People Never Say

If you listen to folks who can’t seem to push ahead in their career or who have never started a company or led large groups of people, they all seem to mimic the same speech patterns. They talk the same language. Here are some phrases they always use. Spot this negative talk in others (or in yourself), and you’ll find the wrench in your business’s growth.

* “That’s impossible” – The most unsuccessful people are always pointing out what is not possible. “That new Bluetooth speaker won’t generate any sales because there are too many on the market already.” They live in a world of impossibilities; they have a can’t-do attitude. And they are sinking the ship of success.

* “I can do it all myself” – When you hear someone on your team or a colleague insisting how she can finish a project or how he can complete the work better without any help from other employees, take note: That person is going to slow things down and is ruining the project. He or she will not create an atmosphere of success but has only his or her ambition in mind. Ironically enough, unsuccessful people are always those who push their own agenda and don’t see the value of teamwork.

* “I have a problem with that” – Nitpickers never prosper. I remember going to meetings in my corporate career with dozens of people sitting at tables in a big room. Inevitably, someone would always stand up and start venting about some highly specific pet peeve in front of the entire crowd. He or she should have started wearing a sign that said “unsuccessful” to the meeting. He or she found one problem and then overfocused on it to bring the whole team down.

* “I like my own idea” – Have you noticed how people at work sometimes like only their own ideas? It is a sign of selfishness and shows an inability to embrace the team objective. It also spells disaster. Those who like and promote only their own ideas are severely limited, because none of us can achieve success with only our own ideas. Imagine trying to build a company by never entertaining any other ideas. Collaboration always propels a company forward.

* “I already know that” – This phrase is a sign of pure defensiveness–it means a grumbler in your company has stopped trying to learn and grow and has become more interested in being perceived as all knowing. It’s one thing to speak knowledgeably about a topic and add insight; it’s another to constantly insist on being the only smart one.

* “You must be wrong about that” – Wait, the other person must be wrong? Really? This phrase is a red flag on the road to success, because the person saying it is assuming the people he or she works with are dummies; the person believes there is only one “right” person in the room. That’s rarely the case. Instead, it’s a sign of success when you admit you need help. It’s better to accept that others might be right about something and accept your own limitations.

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